Dominica XXIII per Annum C
7 September 2025
If he had one, imagine being the Press Secretary for the Lord. At the meeting to prepare for Monday’s Press Conference, one staffer tells you, “We have a little something brewing that we better prepare for. The Lord said that you can’t be his disciple unless you hate.”
You say: “Hate. He said that, huh? Okay, well, I’m sure that was some sort of generalized comment, right?”
The staffer responds, “It was, uh, fairly specific and detailed. He said you can’t be his disciple unless you hate those closest to you, your family, and even your own life and possessions.”
“Oh my,” you say. “Let’s not overreact. I’m sure he said this, what, privately to the apostles?”
The staffer adds, “Yeah, about that… great crowds were traveling with him and he turned and addressed them directly.”
“If anyone comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.” And at the end of today’s passage, “[A]nyone of you who does not renounce all his possessions cannot be my disciple.”
These are some very tough words. We should seek to understand them and we should let them impact our way of life. I think there are two lessons to point out here.
The first is simple, but a critical foundational point. I think we should acknowledge the implicit claim Jesus is making. Jesus is a Jew. The commands of the law are normative for Jews. The commands say that the Lord is God and you should have no other gods before Him. Furthermore, God deserves the entirety of a person’s love and devotion. The first and the greatest command is that you should love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your mind, and all your strength. So, recognize the implicit claim that Jesus is making. Who can claim or demand a love and a dedication like that? Who gets to say that loving him with all that you are and all that you have is the requirement? It’s God who makes that claim! So, for the Lord to say that you cannot be his disciple if you place other relationships and other things ahead of him is an implicit claim that he is God. He doesn’t come right out and say it, but the claim results in the same conclusion. He is God and there can be no other gods before him and he deserves our first love. The one we follow is God and so we take his words seriously, including the words that seriously challenge us.
And that raises the second lesson that we need to examine for ourselves. Are we challenged by belonging to the Lord? Do we feel the pinch of following him? Let’s face it, sometimes it can be a gut punch. Do we feel the cost of following him? I belong to a few organizations that don’t require much of the membership. I bet you have a few like that too. You might pay the annual dues. Maybe you attend a meeting every once in a while. But it doesn’t require much. That cannot be the way it is with following the Lord. So, we should ask ourselves whether we feel any cost to being a disciple? If we don’t feel a cost, we might be deluding ourselves about belonging the Lord. Or at best, if we don’t feel a cost in the smaller choices we make in life, the choices in our behavior, then we might be setting ourself up for failure when the bigger costs come.
The Lord gives a clear and stark lesson in today’s gospel: Calculate the cost of the project of following him. Do you experience a cost in following the Lord? Don’t we usually sort of act as if it is only the martyrs, or the apostles, or great saints – in other words, a select few – who pay a cost, while the vast majority of us live a less costly form of being Christian? But the gospel doesn’t let us get away with that idea. Notice Jesus’ words today are not a private lesson for a select few of his disciples. Rather, the gospel is clear that Jesus addresses this lesson about cost to everyone for he is speaking not to a select few but to “great crowds.”
I should probably say something about the word “hate”. The word in Greek that St. Luke places on Jesus’ lips does literally mean “to hate”. But the context is important to understand shades of meaning. You can look at parallel passages in the other Gospels to help you understand the meaning. So, in this case, if we look at the parallel passage in St. Matthew’s Gospel (cf. Mt. 10:37) where the Lord gives this same lesson we find this wording: “He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and he who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.” Luke’s version is meant to be shocking and to get us calculating our lives as disciples. But with this other passage in mind, we can see that the Lord is not telling us that we should set out to hate others or our own life or our possessions, at least not in the way the word “hate” sounds to our ears. Rather, he is saying that he must have first place. We cannot prefer other relationships or our own life or our possessions to him, if we are truly his disciples. Now, in properly understanding the use of the word “hate” we should not dismiss the force of the Lord’s lesson or somehow walk away thinking that we should remain comfortable in a discipleship that costs little. No. The Gospel tells us that we must feel the cost of belonging to the Lord.
Does the time you make to be with the Lord in personal prayer require a sacrifice? Do you feel that pinch? Do other activities get attention while prayer seems to take the back seat? How might we calculate the cost of belonging to the Lord by guarding dedicated time for prayer? If worshiping the Lord at Mass is skipped, or if I’m inside these walls but texting or surfing the internet or watching videos, or if I regularly walk out of Mass early, does that demonstrate that I need to change my priorities?
Does my pattern of repentance and confession demonstrate the pinch of admitting where I am placing other things before the Lord? Am I complacent about my sins such that I remain in relationship with them and weaken my resolve to be in moral communion with the Lord?
Unconverted ears would bristle at the idea, but how Gospel-like would it be if in family relationships or dating or marriage, we could say to our loved ones, “You’re not number one in my life only because God is first.” In fact, the disciple is called to believe that to love God first and so to be filled with His love, actually helps us love others better.
Is there a cost to your possessions by being a disciple? If you calculate the cost of following the Lord, you believe that all that you have is actually His blessing to you, to be used for His glory and His mission. And in gratitude, you seek to be a sacrificial giver to those in need, to your parish, to good charities, to souls who can be served by your time, talent, and treasure. Today we are challenged to calculate the cost of how we hold onto and also how we give from our possessions and from our talents to serve others. Do you make sacrifice from your gifts?
The tough words of the Gospel today taken together with the first reading challenge us to see where true wisdom lies. We are called to see the limits of a merely human wisdom. “For the deliberations of mortals are timid, and unsure.” Loving the Lord first and giving of ourselves prepares us to be less selfish and to be more holy, more like the Lord whose life is our pattern. Following the Lord in this way prepares us on Judgment Day to be less foolish.